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What is sensual massage? And is it right for you?

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Erotic massage; sensual touch for deep pleasure and extended arousal.

Ever want a massage that validates you as a whole, breathing, sensual being? A massage where draping, or not, isn't important?  A massage without judgements or expectations around you as being a naturally erotic, sensual person? Then sensual or erotic massage is right for you.

You learn to use breath, focus, intention and expressed boundaries to enter another way of being–timeless and treasured–suspended in pleasure without worry of ‘doing it right.’  Whole body massage, which may include the touching of breasts and genitals, asks you to articulate your choices which is a skill that enhances your sex life.

Sensual massage is not to be confused with sexual massage.  A sexual massage is about the expectation of receiving genital stimulation to sexually excite and result in sexual release. Rather, the intent of a sensual massage is about loosing expectations of any ‘result’ allowing you to feel and enjoy your body more in each moment. You lose the need ‘to go’ somewhere, perform, or ‘do’ anything.

The person giving a sensual massage is a teacher, an educator, and not an entertainer or actor. Touch is in one direction only, from practitioner to the client for the purpose of promoting pleasure, healing, self-awareness and empowerment. The client learns how to receive. Rarely do we have someone who can teach us how to receive, in regular sex  each partner is usually busy trying ‘to do’ the other, or get it right, or take care of the other. Erotic massage becomes the learning ground for truly beginning to feel, listen to and enjoy your own sensations–and deeply receive.  You learn to be relaxed and energized simultaneously.

Women clients often learn to express what kind of touch they desire, especially when they are not used to doing so.  They learn to be aware and express their own rhythm and determine the pace and pressure of touch on their bodies.  They learn to take pleasure for themselves instead of taking care of someone else.  Men often sense their body in new ways.  They experience their whole body as an instrument of pleasure.  They no longer need to perform, have an agenda or need to get somewhere with their pleasure.

Couples learn how to massage each other and discover new ways to please one another, new touching skills, new ways to talk about desires and boundaries, and ways to honour the whole body. Sensual massage inspires respect and spirituality to your sexuality where therapeutic massage partitions the body into good and bad.  Instead, whole body massage treats you as integral being, whole, natural, deserving of pleasure, and capable of profound states of connection and peace with yourself, your sexuality, and all life.

Nice to trust and be naked

Nice to trust and be naked

By Charla Hathaway
Certified Sexological Bodyworker, American College of Sexologists, is trained in Esalen massage and offers private sensual massage at  She also teaches classes in sensual/erotic massage for men, women and couples and was featured on the Discovery Channel, spring 2011. She wrote the book Erotic massage; sensual touch or deep pleasure and extended arousal. Other titles by Charla.

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6 comments to What is sensual massage? And is it right for you?

  • Whereas therapeutic massage partitions the body into good and bad zones, sensual massage, by celebrating the whole body, becomes a spiritual experience. Whole body massage treats you as integral being–whole, natural, deserving of pleasure, and capable of profound states of connection and ecstasy.

  • Madonna Delgato

    I gotta agree that all massage is essential but the interesting thing is that sensual massage without getting too sexual expands perception and awareness

  • Emmy

    I’ve heard that more and more woman are turning to this massage for stress relief and even emotional healing, I must admit I have some fascination but I’m too terrified to try in part because my body is far from perfect and I don’t want to be judged.

  • Clayton

    I’d heard many stories about sensual massage and in particular the happy endings and I wasn’t particularly interested. But then it happened that I’d strained my back and a friend of a friend recommended me to this girl so made an arrangement and went along. I was expecting something very therapeutic, like a therapist in a starched uniform but what I encountered was a beautiful young woman wearing a miniskirt and a halter top.
    I was really nervous but she was really pleasant and the massage started like any other. As she worked on my back, I relaxed and we chatted a little about how I’d hurt myself playing ice hockey. She never used any hard pressure but I felt a few sore spots and she explained that they were just localised areas of stress and she was going to find every last one of them.
    I didn’t feel to take away the tail, but I was acutely aware when her fingers pressed and slid in between the crease of my butt and I didn’t know what to think or how to respond. I think I fidgeted and she advised me to relax which was pretty hard considering no one is ever touched me there before. As she was working sometimes I can feel her bare skin pressing against my hand and arm but it felt somehow comforting and reassuring.
    I think I must’ve gone to sleep because she’d moved on and was working on my other hip. I commented that I never noticed her change sides because she’d clearly walked around the table and she said that I’d been asleep for 10 minutes and she’d massaged my legs and it was almost time to turn over. But first she did some really nice sweeps up my legs and up over my back but I swear I felt be abreast against my skin sliding over my hip and lower back.
    Then she asked me to turn over and I realised that I was getting a stiffy. I must’ve hesitated because she told me not to be shy and thankfully she covered me with a towel but when I looked up she was naked. Even though the room was fairly dark her smile put me at ease. I closed my eyes and did my best to relax. She worked on my legs and all to soon she’d removed the towel which left me half hard and really nervous.
    When she worked around the tops of my legs, sometimes her fingers brushed my balls and then she was working I have my belly and chest but sometimes her hands were pushing my penis out of the way and I realised that as well as her thighs against my arm, so was the mound of her pussy and it seemed so unbelievable and what would my girlfriend think?
    Then she was doing my arms and hands followed by my head and face and next I remember was her hands sliding down over my chest and her boobs sliding over my face. She slid her hands back up around under the back of my head and asked how I was. I told her I felt amazing and she giggled then she repeated that move and I really didn’t know how to respond but as she slid her hands back up I felt so amazed I just said that I felt fantastic.
    The next stroke she went down, squeezed my balls and stroked my cock that had gone soft. Then as she came back up towards my head I trailed my fingers over her arms. She repeated the stroke and lingered massaging my balls side slid my fingers up over her shoulders and down her back. Then when she pulled back I got to hold her boobs for a moment as she asked if I’d had enough all wanted a little extra. By then I was totally in lust and she said that as much as some people were about distressed by the idea of happy endings, they were very therapeutic. So it happened and I walked away from their very happy man and was nothing like the seedy and disgusting experience that some people portray this massage as.

  • Randall

    I think of sensual massage as the art of touching that allows you to give and receive pleasure. It enhances communication because your hands speak for you and encompass all your senses – sight, sound, taste, touch, smell – and intimacy.

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